What should She do ?

                                           We as a society have always suppressed women. In our society, we see women as a machine which gives birth to kids, do household chores, goes with husband's will and raise the kids by teaching them so called moral & cultural values. A Woman doesn't have her own identity. Right from her birth, she is taught to obey her parents, her husband. She can't to anything which makes her feel happy. How can she be happy in a society where being born as a girl is her first crime ?

                                           when she's a kid, she is deprived of going to school when her brothers go. She's not allowed to go out of her home without a male person because they believe the world outside is not safe. What about safety inside home ? what about brothers & fathers harassing a girl in her own home ?

                                         When she's married, she can't do anything which her husband or in-laws don't like. Leave her education, she's not even supposed to laugh freely. she can't dance, can't sing because that damages the reputation of the family. she has to maintain the house, be a good wife, good mother, good daughter-in-law. Nobody cares about what she wants. Nobody cares about her identity as a person.


What should a girl/woman do when she is constantly suffering in her in-laws ??

• Should she keep suffering, because thats what she's taught ? (no, because she is a human being first. Having a better life is her right. But, does she get it?)
• Should she run away from there with some other other person whom she likes? (No, because she should be faithful to her husband. Husband can go wherever he wants, but she can't go anywhere)
• Should she go to police and register a complain about being harassed in the family? (No, because that will damage the reputation of the family & even her own parents won't suggest this because they do the same with their daughter-in-law)
• Should she take the law in her hands & teach the family a lesson on her own ? (No, because that will be inhuman)
• Should she go back to her Original parents & ask them to support her ? (No, because once they marry her, they are free from their responsibility. A girl can never come back home)

So, what should she do ? Think about it. Think about what we are doing to our daughters. For how long will she suffer and why ?

when everyone takes you for granted !!

                           GOD has sent you on this earth, with a special talent. it's upto you how much you make of it. sometimes, in trying to improve your skill, you start working with expert. you hope that you could learn a lot from the master and you do learn a lot.

                          But, you should know, where to stop? not stop learning, but stop following that person. you should know, when to start walking on your own path. I say this, because i think after some time, your master starts taking you for granted. He starts using you for his daily routine jobs, or doesn't recognise your talent & exploits you in every sense. 
      
                          Initially, you do whatever he says because you want to learn from him. but you never realise how he exploits you during that phase. Sometimes, he just wastes your time, sometimes energy, sometimes everything. you end up thinking what was wrong when i joined this guy.


                         You should maintain a strict professional relation with the guy from the very first day. If you don't, then you will always find yourself in trouble in later stages. When you will start dealing the person differently, he will always loose interest in you and a day will come when you won't be working together. so, to avoid that situation to come, maintain a good relation from the beginning. That's my advice to everyone, including myself.

मैं बस एक इन्सां हूँ

न हिन्दू हूँ, न मुसलमां हूँ,

मैं बस एक इन्सां हूँ ,

जब भी खून गिरा है ज़मीं पे,

तब  इंसानियत भी गिरी है

मेरी नज़रों से,

खून भले ही किसी का हो,

रंग तो उसका एक ही है न,

फिर क्यों फर्क करते हो तुम ?

घर चाहे किसी का भी जले,

जलते तो इंसान ही हैं न,

फिर क्यों जलाते हो बस्तियां ?

उनका भगवन ये  कहता है,

उनका अल्लाह वो कहता है,

तुमने ये सब कैसे जाना ?

जब होते हैं दंगे शहर में,

तब कोई हिन्दू, कोई मुसलमां 

नहीं मरता,

मरते हैं इन्सां, दंगों में,

हिन्दू बकरा खाते हैं, मुस्लिम गाय खाते हैं,

अब छोड़ो झगड़ा इस बात पर,

सोचो इंसानियत कौन खाता है ?

बंद करो ये लड़ाई झगड़ा,

ये दिखाना कि कौन है तगड़ा,

तुम दोनों के झगड़े में,

मैं यूँ ही बीच में फंसा हूँ,

मुझे बख्शो इस झगड़े से,

क्योंकि 

मैं बस एक इन्सां हूँ !!